Joyce Brothers
Title: Dr. Joyce Brothers
Birthdate: October 20, 1927
Birthplace: New York City, New York, USA
Date of Death: May 13, 2013
Occupation: Author, Columnist, and Psychologist
Profile: Pop psychologist best known for winning
The $64,000 Question game show.
Website: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joyce_Brothers
Number of Quotes: 69
A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.
A woman has been trained ever since she was a little girl to look in the mirror, not to see what's
right, but to check what's wrong. Women are inclined to see their flaws rather than their assets.
A woman should never underestimate the power of the child in the man. Sometimes the child seems to
be in the driver's seat at the very moment when all a man's adult judgment and insight is needed.
Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can and surely will at times fail. Other vulnerabilities, like being
embarrassed or risking love, can be terrifying, too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.
An individual's self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior.
Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.
Any man who watches more than three consecutive football games on TV in one day can be declared legally dead.
As a celebrity, you get a certain number of free passes. You're actually in a better position if you're a celebrity because people care.
Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams.
Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life.
Credit buying is much like being drunk. The buzz happens immediately and gives you a lift. The hangover comes the day after.
Don't always try to be popular. It isn't possible for everyone to like you. It's far more important for you to
like yourself. And when you respect yourself, strangely, you get more respect than when you court it from others.
Don't fool yourself that you are going to have it all. You are not. Psychologically, having it all is not even a valid concept. The marvelous thing
about human beings is that we are perpetually reaching for the stars. The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it all.
Feeling gratitude isn't born in us — it's something we are taught, and in turn, we teach our children.
For men to be virgins, we think it's negative. We think that there's something wrong with them.
For some reason, we see divorce as a signal of failure, despite the fact that each
of us has a right, and an obligation, to rectify any other mistake we make in life.
Happiness hides in life's small details. If you're not looking, it becomes invisible.
Hunches are a kind of subterranean logic shorthand.
I don't believe in luck. We make our own good fortune.
I don't give advice. I can't tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we
know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.
I have emerged from the tunnel of grief into the light. Life is better. Not the same, but good and getting better all the time.
I have found in work that you only get back what you put into it, but it does come back gift-wrapped.
I invented media psychology. I was the first. The founding mother.
I watched the Trade Center buildings go down from my balcony, and it was a terrifying moment. I couldn't get my mind around it at all.
I've enjoyed the pleasures of working since I was 12 and earned all my own spending money since I was 14.
If a child is given love, he becomes loving ... If he's helped when he needs help, he becomes helpful. And if he
has been truly valued at home ... he grows up secure enough to look beyond himself to the welfare of others.
If Shakespeare had
to go on an author tour to promote Romeo and Juliet, he never would have written Macbeth.
If we did get a divorce, the only way my husband would find out about it is if they announced it on Wide World of Sports.
If you change nothing, nothing changes.
If your energy is as boundless as your ambition, total commitment may be a way of life you should seriously consider.
In each of us are places where we have never gone. Only by pressing the limits do you ever find them.
It is a man's world at the top, at the bottom, and in between. Men are in the catbird seat as far as income, opportunity, status,
and power are concerned. This is the way it always has been and, as far as men are concerned, it is the way it always should be.
Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.
Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or
her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.
Love, real love, is not simply a state of bliss. It is an ever-changing state, the result of time and emotional development, of trust and commitment.
Marriage is not just spiritual communion and passionate embraces; marriage is also
three meals a day, sharing the workload and remembering to carry out the trash.
Marriages, like careers, need constant nurturing... the secret of having it all is loving it all.
Men are not conditioned to be less powerful than a woman. It will be the wise woman who realizes this and is sensitive to that issue.
Men have two basic needs. Neither of them, no matter what they say, is sex. They need love and they need work. And work takes priority over
love. If a woman could know only one fact about men and work, it should be that work is the most seductive mistress most men ever have.
Music is stored in our long-term memory. When we learn something through music, we tend to remember it longer and believe it more deeply.
My husband and I have never considered divorce... murder sometimes, but never divorce.
Never try to negotiate with anyone after he or she has eaten. People are best persuaded on an empty
stomach. And forget power breakfasts. There is no convincing anyone of anything before 10 A.M.
No matter how great the differences are between men and women, the differences among members of the same sex are usually equally great if not greater.
No matter how lovesick a woman is, she shouldn't take the first pill that comes along.
No matter how much pressure you feel at work, if you could find ways to relax for at least five minutes every hour, you'd be more productive.
No matter how successful a woman is, men are more successful. Men earn a shocking 75 percent more than women.
Nothing brings families together faster than forgiveness. That should make it Step No. 1, but most of us find forgiving hard. We associate it with weakness and
losing when, actually, the reverse is true. When you forgive, you gain strength and come out a winner. You break free of control by the other person's actions.
Real intimacy depends on truth — lovingly told — especially in the bedroom.
Real intimacy is only possible to the degree that we can be honest about what we are doing and feeling.
Scientists still know less about what attracts men than they do about what attracts mosquitoes.
Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.
The best proof of love is trust.
The cynic finds love with the idealist. The rebel with the conformist. The social butterfly with the bookworm. They help each other balance their lives.
The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the top.
The simple but observable fact is that the more you love, the more you are able to love.
The topic of trust is an important factor in all matters of the heart — and here's why. Men lie to women. Women lie to men. And
most people agree that some lying is even necessary - to avoid petty squabbles and to grease the wheels of a relationship.
The world at large does not judge us by who we are and what we know; it judges us by what we have.
There is such a thing as bad publicity.
They say that money is not everything. I say that when you don't have any, it is everything.
Those who have easy, cheerful attitudes tend to be happier than those with less pleasant temperaments, regardless of money, success, or 'making it'.
Trust your hunches. Hunches are usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.
Virginity is such a personal thing. You can't judge anyone on it. A lot of young women
feel they want to save themselves for the man who they think they'll love forever.
We control fifty percent of a relationship. We influence one hundred percent of it.
Whatever a man thinks about sex, you can be sure that he thinks about sex almost constantly.
When you come right down to it, the secret of having it all is loving it all.
When you look at your life the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.
While parents are naturally in a leadership role, strong families strive to share decision-making.
Women who are confident of their abilities are more likely to succeed than those who lack
confidence, even though the latter may be much more competent and talented and industrious.
You have to be able to center yourself, to let all of your emotions go.
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